What is Bondage?

Bondage is a practice that’s captured our imagination for eons. 50 Shades of Grey may have put bondage firmly on the radar in recent times — but people have been experimenting with boundary-pushing sex for a long time before the record-breaking erotic novel came along. In fact, there are frescos depicting erotic flagellation dating as far back as the 5th century BC!

What’s bondage about?

There’s no denying that bondage is a source of intrigue and fascination at the moment — but what’s it actually all about? Essentially, bondage focuses on the dominant/submissive form of sex, where one partner takes control, and the other submits to their every desire. It also often includes role-playing, restraint and a whole range of other kinks, often acted out in a ‘play,’ a ‘scene’ or a ‘session’.

Why does it feel good to surrender?

Sexual submission and domination is something many of us are curious about — especially if we’re often expected to take responsibility and shoulder the burden in other areas of our life (such as in work, or with family). Playing the role of leader all the time can be exhausting, and that’s where the S&M and bondage scenes can be such liberating experiences. Enabling us to step outside the normal everyday boundaries and escape our routines, bondage offers us the opportunity to experience what it feels like to really let go, and to totally surrender control.

What’s BDSM?

Bondage falls into the category of BDSM (short for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism), which can include all kinds of mind-boggling practices. From spanking and restraints to cock-and-ball torture, wax play and golden showers, BDSM pushes the boundaries to create all kinds of physical, emotional and psychological responses. And whether you’re into cross-dressing, extreme body modification, latex or animal costume roleplay, there’s something for every sub-culture in this scene.

The many sides to bondage

You might be surprised to hear that bondage isn’t always about dingy dungeons, and sinister, degrading sexual practices. There’s actually a huge array of different practices and styles to choose from — and if you’re a bondage virgin, you don’t necessarily need to start off by vacuum wrapping yourself in plastic like a Christmas turkey before applying an electric shock to the genitals!

Bondage-Lite

Bondage isn’t always about pain. It’s actually focused on power and pleasure in equal measure, and as a novice, there’s nothing wrong with just dipping your toe in and see how it feels, before venturing further. For the beginner, there’s a perfect way to test the waters — and that’s through an amazing form of bondage-style massage called Bondassage.

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