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Feb 062020

Hey folks, and welcome to 2020.

In many of our past articles, I’ve shared some of the practical things you can do to explore kinky play with your lover.  Everything from blindfolds to ice cubes, and more.  But there’s another side of it that deserves just as much attention.  This is the emotional side.

When we let ourselves get a bit naughty and explore our taboos, we’re stepping into a place where we can explore our deep and forbidden desires.  We let go of some of the rules and expectations, and let loose those wild notions that have been lingering just beneath the surface, waiting for expression.

That’s why BDSM, done right, can be so incredibly healing and empowering.  It’s about giving our power over to another while in a safe space or being given the opportunity to have power over another.  When we are lovingly held in a space of surrender and trust, we learn to let go and trust ourselves more fully in other areas of life.  It becomes a healing, conscious form of power play.

Part of this comes out in how we treat our partner during play.  In many cases, humiliation can heighten the experience, deepen the role-play, or evoke a thrill of excitement.  Verbal abuse might come up, insults, mockery, ridicule, or derision, and this can seem a bit odd for those who haven’t stepped into that form of play.  And it isn’t for everyone, but think back for a second.  Maybe there’s a time where, in the mad passion of lovemaking, enjoyed a swat on the backside or being called a ‘slut’ or ‘dirty girl’ by your lover.

It may not be for everyone, but when done correctly and respectfully, a little humiliation can fan the flames and get things incredibly hot.  The key is to make sure you and your lover are in sync.  Get to know their line and make sure to honour their needs and desires during your play.  And, on the other side, make sure to communicate how you feel during the play.  If anything isn’t working for you, speak up!  This is how you can work with your partner to improve the bedroom dynamic each time you play. 

Where’s the Line?

When you bring humiliation into the bedroom, the most important thing is to know what your partner is comfortable with and to express your own limits as clearly as possible.  There’s a fine line here, and you have to observe a balancing act.

Most of us will enjoy humiliation play in some ways.  But we all have certain words that just set us off or certain things that we are extremely sensitive about.  Everyone’s different, so it’s important to have a clear conversation with your partner beforehand, to determine what’s out of bounds and what’s desirable.  Plus, when you’re getting clear beforehand, you’ll want to set some safe words to let you call a stop to the play, or slow things down when they’re getting to the edge of what you’re comfortable with.

When it comes to humiliation play, the biggest thing to watch out for is those words or situations that hit a raw nerve or damage your lover’s self-esteem.  And to make sure that you’re safeguarding your own boundaries at the same time.  Anytime your language or behaviour is actually hurtful, like an attack on their person or a traumatising experience, it crosses the line from humiliation to degradation.

With all your kinky play, the keys are awareness and sensitivity.  Keep tuned in to your partner.  Encourage them to share how they feel about your play.  And, above all, go slowly.  This lets you savour the experience while keeping everyone safe and happy.

With light and love, 


Dec 012019

Happy silly season, folks.

It’s the holiday month again, and 2020 is right around the corner!  Seems to rush by a bit faster each time around.  And each year around this time, I find myself reflecting on the past year and considering the journey ahead.

What kind of year has it been for you?  What have you accomplished?  How have you grown and changed?  What have you explored and learned about yourself?  We all shift subtly from one moment to the next, so it’s a blessing to take time out and look at where we are and where we want to go.

The past year has been pretty non-stop for me.  Plenty of high notes, some intense contemplation, and some challenging points in there as well.  Which is all to the good.  I find that I grow most when I’m at least a little bit challenged.  So I invite you to look back on the past year and see the gifts that it has brought you, whatever face those gifts might present in the moment.

What really stands out for me is how lucky I feel to be able to do this work.  To connect with people in person, to share the gift of touch and help those I meet to explore themselves, to feel their edge and get to know their bodies.  Sexuality is such a core aspect of the human experience.  Bondassage and tantra work helps us to get into the body and really feel it, to listen to our energy and learn to follow its guidance.  It warms my heart to think of those who walk through my door and trust me to help them explore these deep and intimate parts of themselves.

For me, and for many of the people I’ve spoken to, this year seems to be about planting the seeds for some major shifts.  Changes in how we see ourselves and our needs, changes in how we approach the world from one day to the next.  And I feel that next year is about bringing these inner shifts out into the light.  The seed busting through the crust and taking off.

On a business level, I’m seeing that it’s time to step up!  I’ve been working in the tantra field for more than ten years now, meeting clients, expanding my repertoire, and deepening my knowledge.  I haven’t raised my rates in all this time, but that’s about to change!  2020 will bring in a new phase of abundance and self-valuing, so you can expect to see the price shift on my website by the end of the month.  The good thing is, if you want to lock in a session at my current rate, you still have some time.  If you contact me before the end of the month, I’ll lock you in at the going price.  It’ll be a little holiday gift to help you start the new year on the right foot.

That’s it for my news at the moment.  Wishing you all a beautiful holiday, and, if you’re celebrating, be jolly, be safe, and have the best time ever!

In light and love,


Oct 012019

Let’s be honest, people.  50 Shades of Grey gets it wrong in loads of places.  But, one of the best things that it has done for us is to bring the subject of BDSM to the table.  It has opened the door for everyone, regardless of how adventurous – or how vanilla – they might be, to bring a little forbidden excitement in by discussing what BDSM is all about.  And this is huge.  In a culture where discussions of kink have been less than apropos for the last couple of centuries, we’re just now beginning to move into a place where we can take an honest look at sexuality, desire, and consent.

I just recently watched a beautiful video about this from one of my friends and associates, Mistress Tokyo.  In it, she explores the value of consent in our kink and intimate play. Consent is central to any bondage or sensory play.  It might not seem like this from the outside.  We tend to focus on the naughty or taboo bits, if we don’t have experience with the world of BDSM.  But, though issues of pain and power come into play, the core of the situation is about safety and trust.SO, when you get a bit kinky with your partner, the most important first step is to sound them out, to find out what they are ok with.

BDSM covers a wide range of different kink or sensory play, from blindfolds to ropes, spanking to subtle touch.  And it can be hugely exciting to explore this realm, bringing new worlds of exploration into your sensual play.  But, regardless of how you go about it, the first step is to ask, are you ok with this? May I spank you?  Would you like to be blindfolded?  May I bind your wrists?

The first thing is that consent doesn’t stop with the first yes.  So, so that your partner has given an ok for a bit of spanking.  Create a container.  Explore how far they would like to explore.  Would you like me to spank you like this?  Are you ok with this many swats?  Would you like to be spanked in this position?  Remember that intimate situations can bring a bit of subtle pressure with them.  If you get a hesitation or a maybe, then that’s a no.  You don’t want to pressure your partner, to say, “Just this once, or come on, you’ll like it!”  Let the play evolve naturally.  Honour your lover’s boundaries and allow them to open up naturally, in their own time.

In the process, make sure that you continue to communicate.  Before you begin your bondage play, it’s important to have set up safe words.  A safe word is something that you can say that will immediately end the “scene,” the sexual play.  Another great way to go about it is to use the traffic light system. Green means “Keep on going!  This is awesome!”, yellow means “slow down, pace yourself” and red means “stop”.  Always listen and let your partner determine the pace and depth of the play.

Consent is central to all forms of interaction, from casual connection to sensual touch to kinkier and more delicious forms of intimacy.  And, although you might not realise it if you haven’t explored the world of bondage and sensory play yourself, it’s all about trust.  On the surface, you give up your power and surrender to another.  In the process, you open up to new feeling, new excitement.  And, when playing with someone that you can really trust, there’s an element of deep healing that comes in as well.

If you’d like to know more about bondage, consent, or kink, feel free to reach out.  I love to share these new realms with those I work with, to open them up to deeper levels of passion and embodiment.  If you’re curious and you’d like to explore, give me a call.

In love and light,


Aug 012019

I recently had a friend ask if I ever mix BDSM and Tantra.  I realised that this is a great question, and one that I wanted to explore further with my clients and readers.  On the surface, it might seem like an unlikely pairing.  Tantra is connected with spiritual sexuality, while BDSM is more about the kinky stuff, right?  Well, they both go a bit deeper than that.

First, to dispel a few common misconceptions, Tantra isn’t only about sex.  It’s a practice of awareness.  It’s about breathing, feeling, and being present to our experience in the moment.  It’s about being conscious to our experience, to turn off the autopilot and wake up to where we are right now.  That means dropping the mind, as well.  Letting go of stories and expectations, ideas of performance and roles.  Tantra is about tuning in to our body’s energy as we experience life, about deepening that experience with every breath.

Tantra is a lifelong practice, and one that I bring into everything I do in life.  It’s like a process of living meditation – slowing down, staying present, paying attention to the details, and above all using the breath to bring more consciousness into each moment.  I practice tantra when I’m walking, when I’m sitting, when I’m talking with a friend or lying in my bed at the end of the night.  And, of course, when I offer my Bondassage and BDSM sessions.

Attention to details is key in a Bondassage session.  It’s important to make sure that the receiver is safely bound.  Secure without being uncomfortable, nothing too tight, and making sure that they have some movement.  It’s important to tune in to them beforehand, to make sure that they have no injuries and that they are bound in the right way for them.

This awareness has to be maintained throughout the session.  Whether it’s Bondassage or any other form of BDSM play, the key to a phenomenal experience is being present in our actions.  When someone receives a Bondassage session, they are in a deeply vulnerable space.  Trust is essential.  And for the receiver to relax and trust, I have to be fully conscious of how I’m touching, when, where.  I have to keep tuned in to their breath and read their subtle body movements.  This is how I make sure to make the session all about the receiver, about where they are and what they need right then.

Doing Bondassage right is an art.  It’s a symphony of sensation, a conscious interaction with a living awareness.  This is Tantra at its very core.  Even when we get moving faster, it’s about being in the moment and ever present.

So, a little encouragement for my readers who are interested in exploring Tantra more deeply, try to give yourself some regular check-ins.  Try to remind yourself a few times a day to pay attention to your breathing, to feel into your body, the sun on your face, the breeze through your hair.  Try to drop into the present.  And, the next time you’re getting hot and heavy with your sweetie or in the middle of a sensual massage, see if you can drop into the feeling and follow the energy.  

In love and light,


Jun 012019

There are lots of elements to health.  Diet, exercise, sleep levels, social connections, the list goes on.  But one of the biggest parts of health has more to do with our minds than our bodies.  Psychological health is about being open to new experiences.  It’s about being less afraid of rejection and less paranoid about others’ opinions of us.  Basically, it’s about being happy and well-equipped to live a satisfying life on all levels.

For a long time, it was assumed that BDSM and kink were connected with an unhealthy or aberrant mind.  Thankfully, even the scientific community is waking up around this topic.  We’re beginning to recognise that the opposite could be true.  People who bring kink and BDSM into their love life are often more comfortable with themselves than those who practice plain vanilla sex.  They tend to show higher levels of well-being and a stronger sense of security in their relationships.

Science isn’t good at finding reasons for this, but it’s not too hard to understand some of the possibilities.  When we begin to explore taboo, we allow ourselves to think about what we really want to experience.  We become more honest with ourselves about our desires and about what turns us on.  And another big step is talking about it.  To share a healthy kinky relationship with your partner, you have to be open to communicating with them.  Instead of keeping our real feelings hidden, we have to share from a vulnerable place and explore our boundaries, to be willing to look into things that we may enjoy, whether society has conditioned us to accept them or not.

Just like with anything in life, there’s no one right way to do it.  But just being willing to talk about how we feel, what turns us on, and what we’re interested in gives us an opportunity for deeper self-knowledge and more sexual satisfaction.  And, one of the really beautiful things about this for those who are new to kinky exploration is that everyone out there has some of these “taboo” desires, or at least curiosities.  As soon as you get past the awkwardness of sharing with your partner, you’ll find that they have had some of these fantasies as well.  This is a key to accepting ourselves on deeper levels and moving past fear of rejection.

So, what’s the takeaway here?  Is it time to break out the handcuffs and start bringing spanking into the bedroom?  Well, maybe.  But it can be just as helpful to have an honest discussion with your partner about things that you are curious about.  This is a great place to start because it lets you explore your boundaries and learn where exploration can be comfortable and fun for both of you.  Plus, it can get into some really stimulating dirty talk or exciting fantasies, which you can then play out as far as you feel ready to do so.

BDSM is about consent and communication.  It’s about creating a safe space for you both to explore, to express yourselves openly and let go of some of the roles and expectations that can make our sensual play go stale and stagnant.  So take a chance and have a chat.  Think about what you would like to experience and open the floor for your partner to share some of their desires as well.  You can keep it as mild as you like, or let yourself explore more deeply.  Whatever you are comfortable with.

In love and light,


Apr 042019

It’s incredibly exciting to bring some variety and kink into the bedroom.  Bringing some delicious new sensual play into your experience can breathe new life into a relationship or bring an already awesome intimate connection to new heights of delight.  But this can be intimidating, too.  Where do we start?  If it’s new territory, it’s only natural to be a bit nervous or awkward.  So here are a few tips for helping you to explore this new space, to step into it like a pro so your lover can relax and get the most out of the experience.

1. Make it about them

This is a big one.  Sometimes we fall into old patterns.  I do this, you do that.  And we both get something out of the experience.  And then once it’s over, we’re wondering if we’ve performed well, if it was good for them, etc.  Instead of focusing on the sensations, we’ve gotten lost in mind and expectations.

The best way to avoid this pitfall is to set up a time for one person to receive, and the other to give.  Let the receiver just relax and focus on the sensations and energies of the moment.  And let the giver tune in to their lover, focusing completely on worshipping their body and giving them the most incredible experience they can have.  If it goes further, amazing.  But that’s not the goal.  Just let the energy take the experience where it wants to go.

2. Set and Setting

Believe it or not, how you set up the room can have a big impact on your sensual play.  The goal here is to arrange the environment for the most comfort possible.  Relaxed, comfortable lighting is ideal.  Try to get the temperature just right, warm and comfortable without being too hot.  Make sure that the space is clear so that nothing is in the way.  And make the preparations beforehand.  Have the oils ready and warmed, bring in any toys, restraints, blindfolds, or other implements that you’d like to have on hand during the session.  By the time your lover enters the room, you want the mood set so that they’re ready to relax and surrender to the experience.  Even if you’ve discussed preferences beforehand (which is really important), you want the moment itself to be a romantic surprise.

3. Eliminate distractions

There’s no one way to do a Bondassage session or sensual massage for your lover.  But, one key is to make it easy for them to let go and become absorbed in the feeling.  Blindfolds are a great way to ease into this, especially if this is a new experience for you.  Visual input can distract us and make it easier to go into the mind instead of the body.  So, consider investing in a comfortable blindfold that blocks out light and keeps your lover wondering where the next touch will land.  Headphones are another great addition.  Go for a pair that’s high-quality – and again, comfortable – and play soft, sensual music for your lover to relax into.  This combination will help your partner to tune in to the body and nothing else.  It’s amazing how much it heightens sensation.

4. Use the right massage oil!

This is easy to overlook, but pretty important.  The oil should be organic, or at the very least edible.  You want to be able to take your time, making it slow, intentional, and supremely intimate.  And, you want to be able to grace your partner’s skin with kisses, tongue, and lips.  One of the best options for this is organic virgin coconut oil.  It lasts for the length of the massage, and it’s healthy for the body and the skin.  Make sure to warm it up beforehand.  Just place the bottle under a faucet with warm water for a few minutes before you begin.  

5. Plan for a variety of different sensations

Here’s one place where you can get really creative.  You don’t have to invest in a bunch of different toys to bring in sensations.  Consider using a light scarf to graze your lover’s skin.  Or using the tines of a fork to lightly trace different parts of their body.  Fur or a feather can bring in a luscious, teasing sensation.  And, if you have discussed this beforehand, you might enjoy some more intense sensory play, like some light spanking or a vibrator.  Temperature can be delicious in these spaces as well.  You can use an ice cube to let drops fall on your lover’s skin.  And you don’t have to confine your touch to toys.  You can create all sorts of different sensations with the hands alone.  Light touches with the fingertips, deeper pressure with the palms, friction on both sides of the legs or arms to bring in heat and treat the body to a new feeling.  Lips, tongue, and breath bring in an even broader variety of touches, letting you cascade your lover with all manner of juiciness.  Tune in and see what they enjoy in the moment!

6. Take it slow!

Remember, you aren’t rushing to an orgasm.  This is a moment to serenade your lover with sensation.  You’ll probably end up focusing on the erogenous zones and genitals as the experience builds, but let the experience take you there in its own time.  Give loving attention to your partner’s entire body.  Massage the shoulders, hands, feet, arms, and legs.  Spend time on the buttocks and back.  Build the sensation gradually and bring it slowly into the sexier spaces.  And, once things start to get really hot, pull back.  And then build it up again.  This is edging, bringing the sensation close to orgasm over and over until your lover can’t take it anymore and explodes with delight!  The slower you go, the more intense this release will be.  Invite feedback so your partner can tell you what feels good, what they want more of, and where they would like to be touched.

7. Bring some full body connection into the experience

At some point, your partner’s entire body will be covered in oil.  You’ve worked all the way up from their toes to their head or from the head on down.  One beautiful addition to the experience is to bring your own body into connection with theirs.  You can slide your chest against their legs, back or belly, bringing your whole body into the massage and create a luscious sensual experience for both of you.  This is also a fun way to move into position for some passionate kissing.  It’s incredibly hot to feel your lover in full contact with you, nothing in between and focused only on the feeling of skin against skin.

So now you’ve got some pointers, and you’re ready to play!  Try out these tips and see where they take you.  Remember to get creative and to tune in to your partner through the whole experience.  Each person is different, and we may want different feelings on one day than we do on another, or even from one moment to the next.

If you’d like some more pointers or to experience a Bondassage session for yourself, feel free to reach out. 

With love and light,


Feb 052019
Bondassage: the most delicious form of sensual domination you’ll ever experience

One of the biggest blocks many of us have is around our sexuality.  When we have doubts about our sexual nature, it reduces our self-esteem, fostering insecurity and doubt.  This is as true for women as it is for men.  And it’s just the beginning.  When our feeling nature is blocked, we can’t enjoy life to the fullest.  Sexuality can be a source of stress, rather than a beautiful joyous exploration.

The thing is, even with a loving partner, it can be hard to get past these blocks.  Unconscious sexuality is performance-based, rushing to orgasm rather than losing ourselves in sensation.  We can so easily get in our heads, wondering if we’re doing it right, if we’re good enough.  We can worry about our technique, whether or not our bodies are responding as they should, all sorts of things that interfere with the experience.

This is why it’s so beautiful to work with a Bondassage professional.  When you have a Bondassage session, you work with an experienced professional whose entire goal is to help you reach your full capacity for pleasure.  During the massage, they hold space for you to feel and to surrender to this feeling.  You can just let yourself open to the sensations.  There’s no right or wrong way.  There’s no goal.  The experience can just take you wherever it takes you, and wherever it goes is exactly right.

Some benefits are obvious and tangible.  After a session with a tantric therapist, your stress levels will be lower.  You’ll sleep better.  The quality of your orgasm improves and you’ll develop greater control over your climaxes.  Plus, you’ll find that you have fewer issues around impotence, premature ejaculation, or the inability to orgasm, if these things have challenged you in the past.  And, as your sexual energy and drive become stronger, your self-esteem and confidence will improve as well.  And all this, though quite a bit in itself, is just the beginning.

Going further, Bondassage helps you to slow down and feel the sensual experience.  It helps you tune in to your body and build sensation, breathing it through your body.  This is the tantric aspect of Bondassage.  The massage is an opportunity to deepen your understanding of what your body likes, how it enjoys being touched.  It helps you learn to expand your pleasure through the breath, to bring sexual energy from your genitals throughout your entire body.  And, most powerfully, it can teach you the practice of the body orgasm, of turning your sexual energy inwards and building it until it becomes almost overwhelming.

After feeling this for yourself, you can then bring these techniques into your sexual experiences with your lover.  You can work on slowing it down, playing with the sensation.  But it takes some practice.  It’s so easy to speed things up with unconscious sexuality.  To go faster and rush to orgasm.  When you work with a Bondassage therapist, you learn to relax, breathe, and feel.  It helps you learn to drop expectations or thoughts of performance and drop into the body.  After even a couple of sessions, you’ll find a profound shift in your love life.  And, as you go further, you learn to expand joy and sensation into all of life’s experiences.

There’s only so much that can be understood by hearing about it.  The real thing is to feel it.  So, when you’re ready to experience the transformative effects of Bondassage for yourself, reach out.

In love and light,


Dec 012018

So, we’ve touched upon this before, but it deserves a little reminder.  Have you ever imagined being tied up while your lover teases you to the very edge of ecstasy and beyond?  Thought of a delightfully firm smack on the ass between sexy stimulation?  Maybe you’d like to be on the giving end, tying your lover and edging them until they can’t think straight.  A little bit of bondage, a blindfold, some sensory play.  Maybe you’d like to go even further, indulging forbidden desires that have crept through the very edge of your thoughts, but never been allowed to express themselves?

The thing is, if we’re really honest, every single person in the world has these taboo thoughts.  They are a part of who we are.  Completely natural and, believe it or not, as healthy as can be.  We’re built to get a little wild, to play the edge and tap into a bit of deliciousness.  Or some overwhelming waves of sensation.  We all want to go to some delightfully kinky places.  It’s not a matter of depravity.  Just the opposite, really.  It’s real, and vital, and some of the juiciest play you can let yourself experience.

Letting ourselves explore the taboo is all about acceptance.  Instead of denying our desires, we honour them.  We own our feelings and our naughty thoughts and bring them into the light.  In the process, we create space to explore new territory with our lover.  If things have been a bit stale, tapping into your taboo desires can shake things up and bring in a touch of spice.  If you’ve had the most amazing lovemaking you’ve ever experienced, then stepping up the kink can take things to places you couldn’t even imagine.

The truth is that we all want to go there.  Suppressing these desires means holding a part of ourselves back.  And, the same part that we’re holding back is that aspect of ourselves that becomes lost in passion, that abandons itself to the wild throes of intimate connection.  Listening to these taboo thoughts means accepting ourselves, maybe on a deeper level than we ever have before.  It’s a way of tapping in to our full aliveness.  And that’s priceless.

The beautiful thing about this is that in accepting ourselves, we come to a deeper acceptance of our lover.  More than that, we invite more excitement and delight into our relationship.  Some taboo talk and play can turn a stagnant relationship into a juicy exploration of boundaries and desire.  Some kinky play can turn even the most vanilla of connections into the most amazing sexiness you’ve ever experienced.

So, what is it that you really want?  What secret desires have been hiding behind that veneer of the good little girl or the polite little boy?  Isn’t it time to let them out?

For the coming holiday season, I encourage you to give yourself the best gift you could ever receive, the depth of sensuality that you have always deserved.  Just ask yourself, how much better can it get?  And then open the door to find out.

Sensually yours,


Nov 032018

We’re coming close to the end of the year, and I’ve been reflecting on all the changes that the year has brought.  So, I decided to do something a little different with this article and give you all a peek into the inner workings of my business.

I’m blessed to be able to do work that I love.  You all know how much I value touch.  It helps us to get into our bodies, to unlock feeling and step into our deepest pleasure.  And, as a practitioner, that’s what I want to spend my time on, touching bodies and making others feel great.  But, to keep that going there are lots of little details behind the scenes that have to be addressed, just like with any business.

To make my services available to you and all of my clients, one of the biggest keys is the website.  And, with a website comes SEO upkeep, regular blogs and fresh content.  The photos have to be changed to keep things current, content changes to reflect current deals and events.  You may know already about my two websites, and  I’m excited to share that I’ve just launched a new site,, to showcase my lingam massage Hens Parties and other events.  Part of the excitement comes from finally seeing it come together after putting a massive amount of work into it.  And, the work is just beginning, as this means three websites to maintain instead of two.

So, moving on to the other little details, keeping up with the scheduling means that the emails are coming in pretty steadily and the phone is none-stop at times.  And the social media side of things requires a bit of attention: Facebook, Twitter, Google Plus.  None of these do any good without keeping a regular presence.  Add to that printing up cards and getting them out there, doing advertising, writing and sending newsletters.  Branding a new business model, taking new photos and uploading the images.  It seems like as soon as one thing’s been taken care of, there’s another that needs attention.

So, this was just a quick blog to let you know about some of the stuff that happens behind the scenes.  I’m always changing, creating content to educate and inform, and exploring new ways to make the healing power of touch available to you all.  Since I am addressing the business side of things, this is a perfect time to remind you of some of my services.  If you’re on the lookout for bondage, BDSM, or kinky massage in Sydney, I’ve got you covered.  Reach out if you have any questions or you’d like to book an appointment.

It’s taken some time for my building to grow to this point, and even though it requires some upkeep, it’s a huge blessing.  I’m grateful to all of you that I work with now and over the years.  I want to thank you for sharing in this journey with me. 

In love and light


Sep 032018

There seems to be this unwritten assumption that as we get older, it’s time to stop being sexual or sensual.  That we should put our sensual selves and desire nature on the shelf and start acting like “mature older adults”.  What a load of crap!

Maybe you’ve been married for a long time, and things have gotten a bit stale, so the spicier and more intimate parts of the connection have been left by the wayside.  Maybe you’re older and single, and so you’ve come to think that your time should be spent playing bridge and doing needlework.  Nothing could be further from the truth.

For a little inspiration, have a peek at this:

This is the trailer for a movie called Book Club.  It follows the experience of four vital, sexy women in their older years rediscovering their sexuality by reading 50 Shades of Grey and seeing where it takes them, in conversations with one another and in their personal lives.  It’s exciting and juicy, and a perfect example of how we can all continue to blossom into our steamy sexual selves, regardless of our calendar age.

Our orgasmic nature is part of who we are, all through our lives.  It never just goes away.  No matter how many candles are on our cake, we can learn some new tricks at any age.  If you’ve let your imagination go stale, you can always pick it back up and breathe new life into it.

Maybe it’s time to explore some new sexual techniques.  Maybe you’d like to make time for an erotic massage or bring a little spanking into the bedroom.  Or perhaps a blindfold and some delicious sense play.  A bit of light restraint to bring some novelty into the connection and get the juices flowing.  What have you ben fantasising about?  Or what would you like to fantasise about if you let yourself go there?

If you’ve been in a long marriage, bringing in some more play strengthens the connection and keeps things fun.  And you deserve that.  If you’ve been single and thought you had to give up on the idea of steamy, sexy play, it’s time to let go of that silly thought and let yourself be the full orgasmic you that you have been for your entire life.

Our sexual energy doesn’t have to fade as we get older.  In fact, sex can be even better!  We find ourselves in a place where we can be more adventurous and liberated.  We have been around long enough to know what we like and what we want to explore.  Sex in our later years can be even more delicious as we let go of some expectations, slow down, and really savor the experience.  Or let ourselves go all those naughty places that we might have been too shy to play with in years before.  When it comes right down to it, our twilight years can be some of the most sensual we have ever experienced.

So, if this strikes a chord in you, maybe it’s time to rediscover your inner Miss Steele or Mr. Grey.  Maybe it’s time to have a little spank or a tie up.  Maybe it’s time to read some sensual literature to get the imagination going or get your honey (or a new flame!) to spend some time glorying in your body with a sensual massage.  Have some fun and treasure your pleasure!

In love and light,