5 Things Every Dom Should Know

Merry Xmas, everyone! The holiday season has rolled around again, and it’s time for celebration, enjoyment, and play on every level. Time to remember the beautiful times you’ve had through the year and make some new special moments.

Here’s my present to you: a few tips to deepen your play and arouse excitement. They may sound simple, but it’s amazing how many doms don’t really get it. So have a look and see if these five tips can transform your play into ecstasy.

1. It’s not just about you.
Being dominant means being in charge. It’s your job to make the choices. But that doesn’t mean making the decisions without consideration. You have to take your partner’s needs and desires into account. Let yourself play, but remember that you need to make it something you both appreciate. Find out what turns both of you on.

2. Presence
We can all use a reminder for this one. Being present means being in the body and in the moment. It means letting go of your expectations and allowing the moment to unfold naturally. That lets us really feel and brings in the potential for true bliss.

3. Fun = Shared Experience
Have you ever had an experience that just left you unsatisfied? This happens when one person takes what they want without giving what their partner needs. When things become one-sided, you lose the depth of fun and feeling that’s possible. But tuning in to your partner’s hidden desires can make the moment exciting and unforgettable for both of you.

4. Imagination can be your enemy
It’s beautiful to play out your fantasies, but stay tuned in to what’s happening. Take a chance and be creative, but watch your partner’s response. This deepens the interaction and lets both of you connect to your excitement and bliss. Being spontaneous can open up whole new realms of feeling. Take some time to explore new approaches while keeping it connected.

5. The limits of sensory play
Touch can be beautiful. And it can be horrible. It’s your responsibility to turn touch into a gift. This means that you have to feel into the needs of your partner in the moment. It only takes a second to turn a night of play into a memory that your partner will flinch at. You’re in charge. Make the choices that make you both smile.

So there you have it. Keep these tips in mind and you’re on your way to connecting to bliss, excitement, and fun.

Happy Holidays and Merry Xmas!