It’s time to debunk a myth that some of us have picked up: sex is not simply for the young. In fact, it can continue to be fulfilling throughout life. Even more, sex can improve with age! And it might have once been taboo to be open with our sexual nature, but those days are gone. At any age it’s beautiful to share openly and playfully, relating needs and desires to a partner and opening the door for them to share as well.
Some think that desire diminishes with age, but this isn’t the case. Certainly there are changes that happen in the body. It might take more time to reach full arousal and to become fully lubricated. But who’s rushing? One of the beauties of entering our golden years is that we have more time. The kids have grown up, the work is behind us, and we can move into our sensual play without distractions or interruptions.
Once we’re older, we know our bodies better. We know what works for us and what doesn’t. Sex can be great when you’re younger, but it’s often driven mostly by hormones. As we get older, sharing of sensual play is more emotional fulfilling, a way to rekindle the passion in a long marriage or deepen a beautiful new relationship. Also, once we have a bit of life experience under our belt, we tend to let go of ideas about performance and expectation, letting ourselves be really present to the experience. Most older men know that there’s plenty more to do in the bedroom than just intercourse, and they love to please, to savour the experience, touch, kiss, lick, and caress. And for older women, the body is often even more sensitive after menopause. Orgasms can become even more intense than they were in the younger years.
One thing that should be mentioned is that taboos are out the window. Having more time and more desire means that we have a chance to explore all those things we never experienced before. Toys, tying, and spanking, role-play and dirty talk. Openly expressing our sexuality is something exciting and bold. There’s an entire world of kink to discover, and it’s all fun, exciting, deliciously naughty, and perfectly acceptable. At any age.
Dating is also something without age limits. It might take a bit of courage once we get older to step out into the dating game, but online dating services and dating apps are great to close the gap and meet people open to connecting and excited to explore a new relationship. Society no longer frowns upon older women dating younger men. Friends with benefits can be deeply exciting and fulfilling. There are no real boundaries other than those we create for ourselves.
One of the best things about staying sexually active as we get older is that it makes us healthier and happier. Sex burns fat, improves physical and emotional healthy, increases lifespan, and improves our relationships. There are no downsides. It’s beautiful to really own your sexuality, no matter how many years you’ve been on the planet. So open up, enjoy, and let the later years bring in the best love life you’ve ever had.