A beat is an interesting concept – it can mean a percussive tap, a pulse and, in creative endeavors like music and artwork, it can even mean a pause for emphasis. It can build a soothing, almost meditative rhythm or it can coax you out of the ordinary into a beautiful, startling expression of surprise […]
Bondage rope is a love tool that is associated with many intriguing concepts – the damsel in distress, the restrained superhero – that send the pulse racing with excitement. Knowing how to select and use this lovely piece of equipment in your own boudoir will bring the particular magic of a braided coil right into […]
Most people are at least passingly familiar with the concept of bondage – handcuffs, whips and blindfolds are the trio of tropes that typically spring to mind. In reality, properly done bondage is part art form, part therapy – and it can work wonders to combat everyday stress that builds up in the body and […]
BDSM is often about taking control, being vocal and confident, and asking for what you want – so if you’re interested in exploring this world, talking dirty can be a great starting point, to ease you into this way of being. But for many of us, even this can be challenging, and it can often […]
There’s a fine line between humiliation and degradation – but for those who enjoy BDSM, the power-play that’s often so central to this scene can often lead them into this territory. Insults, verbal abuse, mockery, derision and ridicule may seem bizarre practises to the uninitiated – but consider for a moment if you’ve ever, in […]
You might not realise that just about every BDSM activity, from spanking to wax play, can often be explored without sex being part of the equation. Sensuality v sexuality It’s interesting to note how conditioned we are to believe that everything of a sensual nature must also be sexual. Yet the two are actually very […]
They may not always portray bondage realistically – but sometimes movies and TV shows do show BDSM in a positive – or at least entertaining – light. Here’s our pick of the top three kinky scenes ever shown on our screens. 1: Secretary Maggie Gyllenhall and James Spader’s dom/submissive relationship has to be one of […]
Does ‘kinky’ necessarily = ‘sick’? It’s disappointing to witness the media’s negative portrayal of the world of Bondage & Discipline – and even slightly more ‘edgy’ sexual practises like Bondassage. How many times have you watched a scene in a TV show or movie which depicts the BDSM scene as dark, depraved and seedy, full […]
You might think that bondage practises are a little ‘out there’ or bizarre – but a recent study has found that BDSM enthusiasts are actually psychologically healthier and happier than their tamer, more ‘vanilla’ counterparts! Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as ‘potentially […]
While some of the more extreme forms of dominance and submission are about going beyond a person’s limits, the guiding principle for most bondage enthusiasts is ‘safe, sane and consensual’. That means respecting your partner’s limits and setting up a verbal cue for if things get too much. Why use a safe-word? Surely we can […]